"SUBMISSION" IS NOT A DIRTY WORD...THERE IS TRUE FREEDOM FOUND IN THE BIBLE TEACHING!

Questions about Women & their treatment in the BIBLE: What's the deal ? "Does Christianity oppress women AS ISLAM DOES, by making them submit to their husbands!"
The Bible does say, "Wives, submit ( To yield, resign or surrender to the power, will or authority of another; with the reciprocal pronoun.)yourselves to your own husbands (NOT TO SOMEONE ELSE'S HUSBAND ), as to ( As you would to God himself) the Lord," but it also instructs, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it" (Ephesians 5:22,25). The love of God is the first duty of man, and this springs from just views of his attributes or excellencies of character, which afford the highest delight to the sanctified heart. Esteem and reverence constitute ingredients in this affection, and a fear of offending him is its inseparable effect.
A man who under-stands that Jesus Christ sacrificed His life’s blood for the Church will likewise love his wife sacrificially and passionately. He will honor her, respect her, protect, love, and cherish her as much as he does his own body, as he is instructed to do (Ephesians 5:28). He will never say or do anything to harm or demean her. It is in this atmosphere of love and security that a godly wife willingly submits herself to the protective arms of her husband. She does this not because he is better than she is, but simply because this is God’s order for His creation.
A godless world rejects the God-given formula to make marriage work. The world view thinks it knows best, and suffers the heartbreaking consequences of destroyed marriages and ruined lives,and for WHAT ? The pride of knowing "I did it my way;hear me roar". The Christian ideal of marriage is not one of an authoritarian and chauvinistic male holding his cringing wife in submission like an obedient dog. It’s the very opposite. While most of the great religions treat women as inferior to men, LIKE IN THE KORAN, the Bible gives them a place of dignity, honor, and unspeakable worth, expressed so evidently in Proverbs 31. We must understand that JUST BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE WHO CLAIM TO KNOW WHAT GOD WANTS , DOESN'T MEAN THAT THEY REALLY HEARD FROM GOD,SO STOP BLAMING GOD FOR MEN'S UNFAITHFUL TEACHINGS!
Genesis 2:18 "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." We read later that Yahweh created woman from man.She was the direct "REFLECTION"of God's IMAGE FROM THE MAN,WHO WAS MADE IN GOD'S IMAGE,SO THE WOMEN WAS TO REFLECT WHAT SHE BEHELD FROM HER HUSBAND (So men,be careful what you show her,SHE MIGHT REFLECT IT TOWARD YOU; SHE IS GOD'S MIRROR OF WHO YOU ARE BEFORE A HOLY GOD !) "WALKING AS GOD WOULD HAVE HIM WALK,BEFORE HIM." She was NOT to be his stepping stone,nor his SLAVE; BUT HIS "HELP MATE" in his WORSHIP OF GOD,TO COMPLETE HIM,SINCE SHE WAS FROM HIM,JUST UNDER HIS HEART TO BE CARED FOR AS A "MISSING PART OF HIMSELF,BUT STILL CLOSE TO HIS HEART".
Genesis 2:21-25 "And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked (HAD NOTHING TO HIDE FROM EACH OTHER OR GOD ), the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. "
In this modern day, where the women's liberation movement has won the hearts of many, women have taken on responsibilities and duties that go beyond what Yahweh ever intended.Yahweh created men and women, each to fulfill a distinct purpose and role in life.
We see that Yahweh concluded it was not good for man to be alone. Therefore, we could conclude that one of the purposes for creating woman was to be a companion. Secondly, we learn that Yahweh desired to make a suitable helper for Adam. Therefore, being a helper for Adam is one of the purposes Yahweh had for creating her.
So woman was created and brought to Adam. In one moment, she did not exist. In the next moment, she was alive and was brought to Adam to be a help to him. Do you think that she had any problem getting in her place? But many women today have totally lost this concept,THEY HAVE BEEN LIED TO BY "The Spirit of Jezebel" who RULED OVER HER HUSBAND. Many women have rebelled against the very thing they were created to do,not out of ignorance BUT out of a FALSE PRIDE.Remember the women "MIRRORS" what men show forth,so if men show forth a FALSE PRIDE in themselves; women also "REFLECT A FALSE PRIDE" so if you don't like what you see in a women:REMEMBER IT WAS YOU THAT CREATED THAT "REFLECTION".Thus rather than being a 'helper' for their husbands, they are often an opponent and stumbling block to THEIR success in God's will for them BOTH. It is the husbands responsibility to SURROUND HIS FAMILY WITH THE "Hedge of God's protection" and to LEAD the family in the Worship of God,which in turn BRINGS STABILITY TO THE COMMUNITY AT LARGE!
What needs to happen is a change in perspective. A completely different outlook. One that sets aside the way we are raised, the way society says things should be,REMEMBER SLAVERY WAS THE IN THING AT ONE TIME; SO "SOCIETY"is not what women should learn from,they should look solely to Yahweh and His word for instruction on the right perspective. we need to have understanding of the will of Yahweh for wives and how they relate to their husbands.
"Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband." (Ephesians 5:33)
O.K. MEN,HOW MANY OF YOU OBEY THIS VERSE ? If you do not Love her the SAME WAY YOU LOVE YOUR OWN SELF,HOW DO YOU EXPECT HER TO RESPECT ( To regard; to have regard to in design or purpose.To view or consider with some degree of reverence; to esteem as possessed of real worth.) YOUR AUTHORITY ? AUTHORITY means:
1. Legal power, or a right to command or to act; as the authority of a prince over subjects, and of parents over children. Power; rule; sway.
2. The power derived from opinion, respect or esteem; influence of character or office; credit; as the authority of age or example, which is submitted to or respected, in some measure, as a law, or rule of action. That which is claimed in justification or support of opinions and measures.
3. Testimony; witness; or the person who testifies; as, the Gospels or the evangelists are our authorities for the miracles of Christ.
Marriage REGARDLESS OF WHAT SOCIETY BELIEVES is the foundation of all society, and so this topic is very important. Explaining marital duties to you is much easier than persuading you to do them. Conform your will to Scripture, not vice versa. Take Ephesians 5:33 ABOVE to heart.
The Dimensions of a Godly Husband's Love. The love of a husband to his wife is peculiar to this relation. It is distinct from parental love and from animal lust.
A. The ground of it. Your are married to her and God commands husbands to love their wives. This alone will last forever, since she may become less attractive in many ways.
B. The extent of it. You must love both her body and soul. Therefore you should choose a wife that is physically and personality/spiritually attractive to you, or you do her disservice.
C. The degree of it. Above his love for all others, including his parents and children, and certainly above any person outside the family. "Always be enraptured with her love" (Prov. 5:19).
D. The duration of it. "Always" (Prov. 5:19 quoted above), not only in public but in private, not for a week or month or year, but until death. Your love should daily increase through old age. You had her beauty and strength, so why not her wrinkles and illnesses? Inner loveliness usually increases as outer loveliness decreases. There are many biblical reasons for a husband's perpetual love.
Jesus' love was genuine, without hypocrisy,UNLIKE SOME HUSBANDS TODAY . His love was so real and intense that He died for the church,THIS IS THE EXACT WAY YOU ARE TO LOVE YOUR WIFE. YOUR love for her is to be Free, without conditions before or expectations after. He gave Himself to cleanse His church, implying she was no beauty beforehand. The husband must draw love from her by his own love. True love is more about bettering the object loved than enriching the subject.
A husband is to LOVE Holy, without impurity. Christ loved the church "that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word" (5:26). This teaches the husband to labor diligently to further the sanctification : The act of consecrating or of setting apart for a sacred purpose to God; consecration.
of his wife. It is to be Great, without comparison,Constant, without change. Many times has Christ been REJECTED by US, and yet He continues to love US. Husbands should copy His example. No bad behavior on her part is grounds to stop loving her.
He is to have an Active love, without neglect and he must do his utmost to supply all her needs,BOTH SPIRITUAL & PHYSICAL; whether for support, or constant friendship, or be a nurse for her illnesses.
He is to be tender toward his wife. Men handle their own sores and griefs more tenderly than anyone else's. "No one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it" (5:29). Wives are like crystal glasses, easily broken if not tenderly handled. Women are more liable to fears and passions and griefs,BUT TAKE THIS TO HEART..THIS IS NOT A WEAKNESS IN THE WOMEN,FOR THIS IS GOD'S OWN HEART IN HER...TAKING CARE OF HER IS CARING FOR GOD'S HEART,AND IT MAKES US REAL MEN.
No man is so ready to help a man as himself. Best friends sometimes fail you but you help yourself. So be ready to help your wife. If a cloud arises between you, dissipate it by your love. You will not stay angry with yourself very long,AFTER ALL YOU ARE ONE FLESH (As one person). No mediator should ever be needed as she is PART OF YOUR VERY SOUL.
Job 36:24 (Amp Bible) "Remember that [by submission] you magnify God's work, of which men have sung." Romans 12:10 "Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in Honor preferring one another;"
Ephesians 5:20-21 " Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God." Now look at this: "Submitting to EACH OTHER" Marriage is to be a MUTUAL SUBMISSION,it's NEVER been a 50-50 Split , IT'S 100% FROM BOTH PARTNERS!
SUBMISSION WAS CREATED IN RELATIONSHIP TO "MAGNIFY" NOT DROWN OUT OUR INDIVIDUAL TALENTS,IF IT DOES THEN IT IS NOT TRUE GODLY SUBMISSION,RATHER IT RESEMBLES "SLAVERY TO ANOTHER WHO JUST "BELIEVES" HIMSELF TO BE THE "HEAD OF THE HOUSE!" WOMEN ARE TO BE "RESPECTFUL" OF GODLY MEN,WHO FOLLOW JESUS' EXAMPLE IN ALL THINGS!NOT UNDER BONDAGE TO THEM BUT FREED BY THEIR OBEDIENCE TO JESUS!